We Get It – You Hate February 14th!

Seriously though. Where did all this hatred for Valentine’s Day come from!? Is it because you’re single? Is it because you’re cheap? Is it because you’re cynical? Is it because you hate chocolate (if this is the case, then you have a bigger issue)?

I’ve already written my thoughts about Valentine’s Day and since 2 years ago, my thoughts have stayed the same, but for those of you who are new and don’t feel like clicking the embedded link (I know, I know–the struggle is real, am I right…?), I like Valentine’s Day. I like that there is a day out of the year that reminds us to take a moment and appreciate the people in our lives.


Have people just lost sight as to the meaning of the holiday or have they just become jaded? Whatever the case, here are some counter points to some complaints I’ve seen about why Valentine’s Day sucks.

“It’s one of those holidays that are made for consumers.”

On the contrary, historically speaking Valentine’s Day became a day of remembrance after Valentine (a priest) was beheaded at the demand of Emperor Claudius II of Rome because he continued to preform weddings of young soldiers to their sweethearts after Claudius outlawed marriages in the hopes of building a massive [unloved] army. As for present day, sure ‘greeting card’ companies have exploited the holiday to turn a profit, but that is what businesses do! It’s nothing new.

“… you’ll be getting yourself into debt forking out for a bit of bling to show your significant other how you feel about them…”

Not only is this not necessary, it’s absurd. Going into debt for someone on any day of the year (yes, including Christmas) is completely bonkers. If you feel like spending a bit of money on something special in the hopes of making your loved one smile is just fine, but again-not necessary.

My husband and I have a tradition for Valentine’s Day and it doesn’t cost a thing:

  1. Go to a store together that has a greeting card aisle
  2. Pick out cards to exchange
  3. Trade cards in store
  4. Leave without purchasing said cards

We already traded cards this year and this was the result:
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We’re obviously a perfect match. 🙂

Another fun way to show appreciation is to write down a dozen or so cheesy pickup lines on post-it notes and stick them around the house. This is a sure-fire way to bring that dopey grin to your spouse’s face–I guarantee it!

This year we’ve decided to have a movie night-in. I’m in charge of dinner; he’s in charge of dessert. I’m surprising him with pizza roses which automatically makes me the best wife in the world!

“… every day should be treated like Valentine’s Day”

True, but is it? In any relationship on any given day you should show the other that they are loved, wanted, appreciated, adored, cherished, worthy, et al, without question or suggestion, but do we? If you’re someone who gushes affirmations to others 100% of the time, good on you! For the rest of us, it’s not everyday you have the thought: I really care about this person and they deserve to know it. In our day-to-day lives, we become habitual with our love (which is not a bad thing–it just happens). That’s what makes Valentine’s Day so special; it forces people to slow down from their every day grind, break out of their routine, and acknowledge the people they care for, even if it is an internal acknowledgement.

“… you’ll find yourself sad and alone…”

Just because you’re not tied to a love interest doesn’t mean today’s gonna suck. Do you have a best friend? Are you close with your mom? Do you have a pet? Hell! Do you care even just a little about your damn self!? Put your energy and love into something/someone that means something to you whether that’s asking your bestie to be your Valentine, hugging your momma, buying your fur baby a new toy or treat, or treating yourself to a mani/pedi and a venti something-or-other instead of a tall or a good ol’ fashion bubble bath with dish soap if you’re cheap. Love comes in all varieties, so don’t knock the whole concept just because you’re feeling down about your relationship status. Plus, you have to love yourself before you can love someone else, am I right?

* These quotes have been pulled from posts (some taken out of context) written by English Rosiee, Sage Petersen, and Jamal. My responses to such quotes are in no way an attack on their thoughts/feelings; just responses to such thoughts/feelings.

26 thoughts on “We Get It – You Hate February 14th!

  1. I’m not a big fan of Valetines day. I appreciate the sentiment but I don’t feel the need to go above and beyond for it. I’m actually having a bad day because of it though. Every year my mom and dad send my brother and myself ecards. And every year my brother gets all jerky about it and tells them off for it. Usually in a polite way, but then my mom complains to me about it and I’m stuck in spiral of her telling me it means we don’t care about them and my brother being all “well if they’d just listen then I wouldn’t have to say anything” it’s horrible. And my kidlets’ dad just knocked on my door asking if I can stay about 30 mins later tonight. It’s been an EXHAUSTING week and I wanted to say no but it’s also only 30 mins. But knowing them it will be much later and I’m going to resent it lol I need an attitude adjustment before I head over to work haha!

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    • Your brother sounds an awful lot like my brother. I’m sorry your family drama is causing such turmoil.

      Maybe instead of thinking you ‘have’ to stay an extra 30 minutes, try and turn it into a positive: you ‘get’ to stay and extra 30 minutes with your kidlets. Have them come up with their own cheesy pickup lines. It could be fun. 🙂

      Hugs my sweet friend!

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  2. I love valentine’s day and celebrating it with my hubby. Was out shopping with my friends this morning and we were just talking about this. How we feel this year there is so much negativity towards Valentines day and we don’t know why. Glad to see another couple enjoying this holiday and Love your traditions! Great post

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  3. The trading cards in the store is a genius idea. I hate how cards are like $5 and half the time they get thrown out. I’m a bitter, single person, but I’ve stopped buying into the whole thing of Valentine’s Day lately. I get something for my mom, and my parents normally get me candy. And I spend some extra time with my pets. It’s just really another day.

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  4. I COMPLETELY agree with you! I get so sad when I see people hating on Valentine’s Day. You don’t have to love the holiday but I don’t see where all the hate comes from! It’s a day that serves as a reminder of the people you love in your life. I feel like you can even celebrate self love on Valentine’s Day! I love the tradition you and your husband have with trading cards in the store! That’s GENIUS!

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  5. Yes to ALL of this. Honestly most years we use it as a reminder and don’t actually do anything on the day itself, just one one of the days around the date. Like, ‘oh! Valentine’s day! Let’s do a date night soon!”

    Also if I ever hear people bitching about the cost of Valentine’s Day I mentally chalk them up as people who can’t be bothered to go to the effort of making/writing something. It doesn’t have to cost anything but a small bit of your time!

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    • Exactly! They think they’re stinking it to retailers by not buying anything, but they’ve already lost the fight by becoming so anti-Valentine’s Day–in essence still being pressured by them.

      If we’re gonna hate on retailers for pushing merchandise for any sort of holiday, it needs to be for advertising way too early for most cases. I’m already seeing Easter paraphernalia and that’s 2 months away! Same thing for Christmas–they put out Christmas decor at the end of summer. That’s not okay!!

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  6. I’m single. I’m sorta cheap in that I really don’t like spending money on things that aren’t necessarily practical. Of course I’m cynical. And, yeah, I actually do hate chocolate.

    I don’t absolutely hate Valentine’s Day, though. I’ve never had anyone to share it with, though. So that kind of takes away some of the attraction of the day away for me. I think it’s nice for couples, for people who have people. But I did avoid most of Facebook yesterday, so there’s that.

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    • That makes me sad that you don’t care for chocolate. That is one constant that brings me joy. And I’m with you on not liking to spend money on non-necessities. All I purchased for V-day this year were the makins for pizza which are some of the most necessary items ever!

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  7. I’m meh about Valentine’s Day and have always felt that way whether I was single or in a relationship. I hated it when I was recently broken up with, but that’s understandable lol When I was single I used to send my friends coffee money on VDay and my mom would buy me chocolates and that was enough for me 🙂

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  8. OKAY I tried to ask my boyfriend to pick me a card out at the store but not buy it & he thought it was a silly idea but I think it’s the cutest LOL! I love that you both chose cards with food on them & then, you made him pizza roses?! Amazing. ❤ You two are definitely meant to be!! I agree 10000% with you. I hated all the bitterness towards the holiday, there was no reason for it at all.

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